Real Relationships - With Justine Hiett from Love Every Aspect
Today is day 3 of our #heyiwantmylifeback Social Media Challenge. I asked one of my new online friends Justine Hiett from loveeveryaspect.com to share an experience that she has had in improving her own relationship with her husband through controlling their social media use when they are together.
The video is posted on my IGTV, but the message she shares is so important, that I wanted to make sure you got it, whether you go check out the video or not, so I decided to summarize her video for you.
“You aren’t going to miss anything by putting your phone down for an hour or so.”
Like most of us, the Hiett’s would spend their afternoons “watching” a show together, while they both used their phones. One day they realized that this was crazy! They were right next to each other, but they were not interacting. They were not even really watching the same thing together.
Justine beautifully illustrates how isolating it can be to be a first-time parent, while you are dealing with the demands of a child with very limited adult interaction. It shocked her when she realized that even though she was “spending time” with her husband when he would get home from work, they were not having quality adult interactions.
“When you become a parent for the first time, all of the sudden it feels a little lonely. Especially if you are a stay at home mom. So to have really no adult interaction all day, and then to come home and really not have any adult interaction, even though there is another adult in the room…”
They realized that something had to change, so they made a plan.
Justine and her husband decided that they would not use their phones after their son was in bed, except for the obvious emergencies.
“That’s the beauty of text messages. You can answer back whenever you want!”
The Immediate Benefits
Within the first week or two, they started to notice a few things:
They were both in a better mood in the afternoons
They would talk more
They would actually watch their shows
They were able to play games and have fun with each other
“After a hard day, it was nice to have that true interaction with my husband again.
The Future Benefits
By making this change with their relationship with social media, they hope to not only benefit their own adult relationship, but to have an impact on future generations. Some of these benefits are:
Being a good role model for their son
Showing him that you can have entertainment without having to be on your phone
Bringing back the benefits of a time when we didn’t have the luxury of a smart phone
Teach him to build communication skills with those who are in the same room with you
Did you read that last one? It is an amazing benefit, and one that is definitely becoming a lost art.
Thank you, Justine for being so open and honest with us about your experience. I hope this is something that we can all apply into our own lives, because relationships are so important, and we need to do all we can to keep them strong.